Choose Yourself

Hi loves,

I hope that as we ease into the new year, you are reflecting on and reevaluating the decisions you made last year, and that one critical element you should include in your vision boards and resolutions for this year, in case you haven’t, is to choose yourself.

Whatever plans you have made to change your life for the better, do exactly that. If you want to work on your weight or your body, watch your diet; the gym is a plus but what if you can’t afford it? You must do without it; go jogging, work out at home. Make a conscious effort to make the changes you ever so desire. If you want to make more money and you haven’t even thought of starting a business, then you don’t really need the money because just saying you need money or thinking it without putting in the work will NOT do anything for you. You most definitely cannot keep on living entirely off men, my girl. If you really want money, put that business idea to work; that logo can come later, create your portfolio and apply for those jobs you want and don’t stop until you get picked for one.

Choose yourself in your finances, in your family affairs, in your friendships and in your love life. Do not allow anyone to make you question yourself or make you unsure if you’re wanted and loved, especially if your significant other is uncertain because uncertainty is not in the least bit attractive and it shouldn’t be. Don’t romanticise it. Take off your shoes and run away from anyone who makes you ask yourself; ‘does he love me?’ or ‘does she love me?’. Once you have to ask yourself that, the answer is a blunt ‘NO’ and you need to back out no matter how difficult it is. Just choose yourself, tell yourself ‘never again’. No one deserves to feel unwanted just because their partner is uncertain.

Don’t waste your time, energy and destiny on people who want to ‘go with the flow’. Being played by someone you really like has got to be one of the most painful things to experience and no, I’m not talking about getting cheated on. I’m taking about being played emotionally; realising the person you thought was your forever person isn’t as crazy about you nor wants to take you seriously.

Ideally anyone who ignites a fire in you should either tend to it or put it out themselves, not leave it burning until you literally can’t breathe and then they go AWOL for you to put that fire out yourself. Not everyone is responsible enough so you have to be there to choose yourself. Know when to back out and say “I love you, but I love myself more“.

Take some time off if you need to reconnect with yourself. Faith or no faith, you should meditate and manifest the things you truly want and the energy you want to attract. Set clear boundaries so that no one can come close to messing with you. Say you don’t like whatever to whoever, whenever so they don’t keep offending you. Speak up for yourself because when you don’t, you’re being very unfair to yourself and no one else. Make sure you come first; be your first priority. You can’t be there for people if you’re hurt and damaged beyond repair.

With emphasis on taking your spirituality seriously this year, I’d like to add that whatever your belief system may be; God, Allah or another supreme being, you should really focus on healing spiritually too. Life’s a lot easier when you choose yourself mentally, physically, emotionally, and most of all, spiritually. Your God will not watch you drown and we both know that they will answer your prayers so get serious. If you don’t have a belief system, however, that is absolutely fine; just make sure to to take it easy, journal, meditate and manifest.

That pain you’re feeling; that irritating sensation in your chest and the void you feel in your heart, it will all go with time. I promise you that for sure.

It may take weeks, months or even years but what will matter in the end is that you went through the torment and came out whole, without overlooking your pain. This is choosing yourself. That way, you don’t make the same mistakes again (especially the ones in human form *wink* *wink*). These life lessons are enough.

It’s high time you started enjoying your life, not caring about what people have to say. You are your own person and you deserve all the good things in the world, as well as a big virtual hug.

My email and DMs are always open to you. Have an amazing year and just in case no one has told you,

I love you.

xoxo,

Yoonee.