How to Let Go of Someone Who Doesn’t Value You Or See Your Worth

Hey love,
If you’re reading this with a heavy heart, wondering why he hasn’t texted back, why he doesn’t check in, or why you feel so small when you’ve given so much—this one’s for you.

First things first: you are not alone. So many of us have sat right where you are—teary-eyed, scrolling, replaying conversations, questioning if we were too much, or maybe just not enough. And let me say this loudly for the girls in the back: You didn’t do anything wrong.

Here’s the truth: someone who truly values you will show it. They’ll show up for you in ways that don’t leave you anxious, waiting, or confused. If he has time to save face on social media but can’t find the time to check in on you? That’s not busyness—that’s priorities. And it’s not your job to fight for a spot on someone’s list of priorities. He won’t leave you guessing or questioning how he feels. Actions will always speak louder than excuses or distractions.

But let’s take the focus off him for a second, because this moment—this heartbreak—is about you.

You Deserve Soft Love and Care

The kind of love that doesn’t feel like a battlefield. The kind that leaves you smiling at your phone, not staring at it in frustration. You deserve a love that feels warm, mutual, and genuine. If you’re pouring your soft love and care into someone who isn’t meeting you halfway, it’s not about you lacking anything. Sometimes, they’re just not ready for what you have to offer. And that’s okay. It’s not your job to fix, prove, or overcompensate.

It’s Okay to Let Go

I know it hurts, babe. I know you really like him. But here’s the hard truth: love isn’t supposed to feel this heavy. If being with someone is costing you your peace, your confidence, or your joy, then it’s too expensive. Letting go doesn’t mean you stop caring; it means you care about yourself more. And that’s not selfish—that’s survival.

What Letting Go Looks Like

Letting go isn’t always dramatic. Sometimes, it’s as simple as:

Not reaching out first anymore. Let them show you what happens when you stop initiating.
Unfollowing or muting their social media. You don’t need to keep tabs on someone who’s not showing up for you.
Redirecting your energy. Instead of pouring into them, pour into yourself—your friends, your goals, your joy.

How to Heal

Feel everything. Cry it out. Scream into your pillow. Journal. Whatever it takes to let the emotions move through you.
Talk to your girls. Your real ones will remind you of who you are and why this situation doesn’t define you.
Do something that makes you happy. Paint, read, go for a walk, binge-watch your favorite show—anything to remind you that there’s life outside of this pain.
Set boundaries. If he comes back without real effort or change, you don’t owe him another chance.

To the Girl Reading This

You’re not crazy. You’re not asking for too much. You’re just asking the wrong person. The right person will make you feel wanted, valued, and cherished without you having to beg for it because men will move heaven and earth to be with the woman he wants and it’s okay if you’re not the one. Someone else will move heaven and earth for you.

Take a deep breath, babe. You’re stronger than you think, and this heartbreak? It’s just a chapter, not the whole book. You deserve so much more than this, and one day, you’ll look back and be so proud of how far you’ve come.

With love,
A girl who’s been there.

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